Sui He for Vogue China, February 2013, Photography by Lachlan Bailey





i’m always so disappointed by how mainsteam media chooses to only ever portray F/m femdom as a singularly boring, unattractive, jerky-dude-centric, and weird thing


On a superficial level, I find this hot…

But yes… it’s very kink-shaming. Not to mention… I watched Reign with my mum the other day and my mum is a very vanilla, straight-laced person (for all I know), and what she took away from all this is that this is the kind of thing that mentally-ill men would end up being tricked into doing by cunning women who want to take advantage…

Which is what was happening on this show, but… that’s hardly what bdsm is…

We live in a media landscape where we can have valorized, widely available and known depictions of mandom/woman sub. And even though those depictions are abusive, they’re out there and portrayed as something hot that people do as part of a romance. But the only time people see F/m femdom is stuff like this, and it has an impact, both on vanilla people and on people who might have kinks but literally get the message to never explore that, that it’s sick and unnatural.


and lest someone whine at me for going on about kink representation when there are more important forms of representation etc

this kink shaming is also about policing gender roles and sexuality and gender expression 

this scene is promoting a whole shitton of things about what men and women should be and what sex should be and it’s harmful across multiple fronts

Not to mention that it’s showing the man as being openly rejecting and APPALLED by being dommed by a woman, and resisting her on the basis of her gender despite the position he’s in…it’s like???

removing the very POSSIBILITY that a man might want to be and even ENJOY being submissive, might find that sort of relationship positive and GOOD, that it could be healthy and loving and romantic to be vulnerable to a woman.

But nooooo ofc we can’t have that.

wow wOW snk/ender’s game crossover au: twice the sadness, none of the fun


"Eye of the Tiger" Played on an Old Dot-Matrix Printer

"Papa, what did the ’80s sound like?"



I’m in a constant state of “I want to write 10 novel-sized fanfictions but instead I’m going to just mentally play through the entirety of each one and never sit down and write a single page”

In Our Bedroom After the War
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"And if the night comes,
And the night will come—
Well, at least the war is over.

All the living are dead,
And the dead are all living;
The war is over,
And we are beginning.” 

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New Trailer: ‘Orange Is the New Black' Season 2 - June 6


Beware the frozen heart.


Do you mean Monster??

I DON’T THINK SO ACTUALLY from what i’ve heard Monster is actually about human monsters rather than supernatural stuff??????? and this was def supernatural

Yeah yeah it is—but the plot line described was still eerily similar in a lot of ways, lol.


In honor of that: Major trigger warnings for sexual assault/rape for all of these.

But I think.. poetry and knowing that other people experience these things too allows us to connect. It can help inspire us to write our own pieces. Poetry can help us process. But only listen if you’re going to be okay doing so and make sure to take care of yourself.

Blue Blanket by Andrea Gibson

One Color by Neil Hilborn and Ollie Schminkey 

Black and Blue by Jasmine Mans and Alysia Harris

Communion by Jeanann Verlee

And/Or by Jeanann Verlee

Paperdolls by Sierra Demulder

Unsolicited Advice (after Jeanann Verlee) by Tony Ingram

An Open Letter from Harley Quinn to the Joker by Lauren Bullock

A Survivor’s Guide to saying Yes by Anna Binkovitz

Trellis by Andrea Gibson

On Admitting You are an Abuse Survivor by Sierra Demulder

and this poem has nothing to do with the topic- but it’s the poem that I listen to to make myself feel better. so I’m sharing it here with you. It isn’t a particularly inspirational poem and I can’t tell you why it makes me feel better- but it does.

For those who can still ride in Airplanes by Anis Mojani





like how much more obvious does this need to be made for people to get it?

this isnt even an exaggeration 

like at all

That guy at the bottom? He’s waging class warfare.

Love how some dbag removed that this post was made by me. Ah well, it’s all for education! :)


the folt in our stors


this line just really means a lot to me. 


tell yourself you’re hot. tell yourself you’re amazing. tell yourself you’re untouchably, radiantly attractive. do it every day, even if it feels like you’re lying to yourself. insist to the mirror that you’re the cutest thing its ever reflected. if you do it enough eventually it wont feel like lying anymore, it’ll be automatic, and you’ll recognize yourself as the incredible babe you really are.